Anyone that has been betrayed by someone they loved by them having a one night stand or a relationship definately has reason to feel like a victim. I have a long story of being betrayed. I been told it very therapeutic to hear other people stories. Such is not the case for me. I think the real question is : "When do you stop being a victim?" For me, it when i said to myself. "NEVER AGAIN" I wont let that person ever effect me in negative way. Good Luck all in you recovery Pray for me! I need all I can get! but dont pray for me to forgive. Forgiving is for the betrayer not the one who was betrayed. Pray for me so that I will once again allow someone special into my life to give them the opportunity to let them take the hurt away. I know there is someone special out there that can do it. Pray my heart isnt harden so much that I see that opportunity when it comes my way.